Why is it that most of us fail to keep their New Year resolutions? We are so overbooked, overworked and overwhelmed, our resolutions just become another “wish” list for a new life of happiness and peace that continues to elude us. Before setting your goals for the new year, it is important to take a snapshot of the last one. Most of us are tired of living our precious lives like Billy Murray in the movie Groundhog Day. It’s time for a new year, new you.
Take Back Your Life
Here are some tips to create a life of happiness:
1. Create – A theme for the new year
What would you like to be your greatest triumph in the next year? Name one word that would describe what you want this year to embody? For example, Forgiveness, Success, Prosperity, Love… What word would you use to describe your experience of last year?
2. Choose – Concrete goals
Choose only three things you would like to create in your life this year. Write them down. Commit to a ritual or ceremony to symbolize your commitment. Make a step by step plan. Assess your goals every week. For example new job, better marriage, reduce my debt, getting healthy.
3. Reinforce – Your new practices
Create an intention statement or a positive affirmation. This creates energy, focus, and confidence in your goal. Repeat it often during your busy day. Stick notes along your daily routine- on the mirror, refrigerator, in your car, or on your computer. For example, Life is good, I am healthy and strong.
4. Remind – Yourself
Use physical, sensory reminders that reinforce your memory. Look at and feel wristbands, a bracelet or beads. Listen to motivational music or tapes of inspirational people you enjoy. Keep a journal on paper or online to reflect on your growth each day. Focus on the positives. Create rituals that reinforce change and new habits.
5. Connect. With community
There is increasing scientific evidence that your community keeps you healthy. Enlist support from friends and family. Create a buddy system with someone you trust to make sure you keep on track. Join online groups and blog lists.
6. Stress – Reduce and manage it
Stress forces us back into old habits. Become aware of what triggers your stress. Each time some event or person hits your stress trigger, practice stress reduction techniques. Take SELF-care time for a few minutes every day. Do something fun and play at least once a day.