Avoid the Sins of the First Date

A first date can be exciting and nerve-racking all at once. Whether you plan on going to the movies, a fancy restaurant, or sports event, getting to know the other person is a top priority for a first date. Everyone wants to make a great first impression, but slipups are bound to happen.

To ensure that you get a second date, take these Mindful first date tips into consideration:

  1. Be your true self. It’s always great advice to be yourself. But in order to impress a date, many people put this rule on the backburner. This can be a grave mistake. So beware of doing things like making up fantastic stories about yourself. It can backfire.
  2. Vulnerability. So many people are concerned with being perfect on their first date that they forget the importance of vulnerability. Showing imperfection is important for any date, but don’t to overdo it, turning your date into a therapy session.
  3. Relax. First dates have often been compared to job interviews. While they do share some common traits like dressing appropriately and being positive, you certainly don’t want to turn your date into a stiff, professional interview. Remember to relax.
  4. Make a fresh start. A first date is a great opportunity for a fresh start, but few people take advantage of it. When on a date with a new individual be sure not to bring up your exes excessively. It can be a surefire way to sour the mood.
  5. Leave business at work. Answering your phone or texting during a date is considered rude, but talking excessively about business can also be a turn off. Consider spending less time explaining the politics in your office and more time discussing your life goals.
  6. Beware of the basics. Some common dating advice consists of avoiding “touchy” topics like religion or politics on the first date. You don’t want to scare or intimidate someone on the first date. But if these topics are important to you remember to bring them up carefully.
  7. Turn off your smartphone. Nothing is more frustrating than trying to talk to someone who is distracted by his smartphone. Leave those devices in your car, turn them off, or set it on silent. First impressions are everything!